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Joy Killers: How and Why We Sabotage Joy

Joy Killers: How and Why We Sabotage Joy

Why does joy feel so hard to hold onto? In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re revealing the joy killers: those sneaky ways we sabotage happiness even when life is going well. We explore: By the end, you’ll see how internalized shame, fear, and control kill our joy- and how practicing gratitude, presence, and vulnerability can help us reclaim it. Today’s Hosts: Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes – CONNECT WITH US – – LEARN WITH US –

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The Problem with Self-Love

The Problem With Self-Love

We all know self-love is important, but what happens when it goes too far in the wrong direction? In this episode, Michael DiIorio is joined by therapist Michael Pezzullo for an honest conversation about the shadow side of self-love. Together, they explore: You’ll learn about the Self-Love Spectrum, the signs of self-coddling and self-bulldozing, and how to practice a more empowering, growth-oriented version of self-love- without abandoning your need for care and compassion. Join us for an episode that will help you get honest about how you love yourself, and what real self-love actually looks like. Today’s Guest: Michael Pezzullo Today’s Host: Michael DiIorio Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes – CONNECT WITH US – – LEARN WITH US –

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Healing the Trauma of Growing Up Gay

Healing the Trauma of Growing Up Gay

In this episode, Matt speaks with world-renowned trauma treatment expert, Harvard-trained psychiatrist, and psychotherapist Dr. Frank Anderson.  Let’s be honest, trauma isn’t the most glamorous topic to talk about, but it significantly impacts us as gay men, and our community is in desperate need of healing from the trauma of growing up gay that we each likely experienced. This episode is a raw and real exploration of the impact growing up gay can have on us. Many of us had the pressure and stress of being a young boy and having to carry our big secret on our little shoulders. This pressure likely lasted for decades, and we had to deal with it alone, without support. Remember that you are not alone if you are struggling with this trauma or the dysfunctional behaviours unhealed trauma can cause us to engage in.  Matt and Frank created this episode as a guide to understanding your trauma and how to begin the healing process.  The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: Related Link: Today’s Guest: Dr. Frank Anderson Today’s Host: Matt Landsiedel Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes – CONNECT WITH US – – LEARN WITH US –

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Attachment Styles in Dating

Attachment Styles in Dating

In this episode, Matt speaks with Counsellor Ken Reid about attachment styles in dating and relationships. Together they unpack how attachment styles can impact whether or not we choose to be in monogamous or non monogamous relationships. They explore the impact of trauma on the development of insecure attachment styles, and what we can do to heal if we find ourselves anxious or avoidant in our relationships.  The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: Today’s Guest: Ken Reid Today’s Host: Matt Landsiedel Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes – CONNECT WITH US – – LEARN WITH US –

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Healing a Traumatic Past (CPTSD)

In this episode Matt speaks with Scott Blackwood about healing their traumatic pasts. They talk about the impacts of relational and attachment trauma on their lives and how this led to Complex Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (CPTSD), shame, low self-esteem and social isolation. They talk about how the unresolved trauma impacted their relationship with themselves and others and the steps they are taking to overcome this. Here are some of the concepts they explored in this episode: Most humans experience relational/attachment trauma over the course of their lives and it is important to be trauma informed so we know how to be sensitive and compassionate towards ourselves and others as we navigate our own trauma healing journeys. Our hope is this episode will normalize trauma, and release any shame or stigma around having unresolved trauma because it’s a lot more common than we think. Don’t miss this episode!🎙️📺 Today’s Hosts: Scott Blackwood:Facebook Matt Landsiedel:InstagramWebsite Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection – Get lifetime access to 2 courses, 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Follow us on Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes

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Spiritual Abuse & Religious Trauma

In today’s episode, Michael DiIorio invites special guest Jeremy Russo to explore how spiritual abuse can manifest within religious communities, causing harm to individuals’ mental, emotional, and even physical well-being. We also touch upon religious trauma, discussing its lasting impact on survivors, and the journey towards healing and forgiveness.  While this is a deeply sensitive topic, we believe it’s crucial to shed some light on the dark corners of this often-overlooked aspect of faith and spirituality. Resources discussed in this episode: Today’s Guest: Jeremy Russo Today’s Host: Michael DiIorio Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community including access to monthly group Zoom calls Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Take our “Healing Your Shame” course Coaching Collection – Our 2 courses + 45 coaching videos, and 2 workshop series Follow us on Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes

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