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Rejection Sensitivity

Rejection Sensitivity

Why do so many gay men struggle with deep fears of rejection—whether in dating, friendships, or even at work? In this episode, we’re unpacking rejection sensitivity: where it comes from, how it shows up in everyday life, and why it can feel so intense for us. Some of the topics we cover: If you’ve ever felt crushed by criticism, avoided risks to protect yourself, or wrestled with feelings of “never enough,” this one’s for you. Related Episodes: Today’s Hosts: Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes – CONNECT WITH US – – LEARN WITH US –

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Eroticizing Shame - Turning Pain Into Pleasure

Eroticizing Shame – Turning Pain Into Pleasure

In this episode, Matt speaks with Psychotherapist, Merle Yost, about how shame may influence sexual desire and arousal by eroticizing shame as a way of coping with it. Merle shares his story about being sexually molested by his father and the impact this had on his sexual development. Join us for this interesting topic that is often not talked about but deeply impacts many of us.  The concepts and questions we explore in this episode are: Today’s Guest: Merle Yost Today’s Host: Matt Landsiedel Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes – CONNECT WITH US – – LEARN WITH US –

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The Sexuality Spectrum

The Sexuality Spectrum

On this week’s episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we’re diving into The Sexuality Spectrum. From fluid attractions and shifting needs to understanding social conditioning and embracing different sexual dynamics, we’re exploring the dynamic range of human sexuality and how it shows up uniquely for each of us. Some of the topics we’ll be discussing are:  This episode is filled with personal stories on how our own sexual preferences have changed over the years, and what it means to get those needs met. Tune in for a nuanced conversation on embracing the fluidity of our sexuality, breaking down labels, and finding what truly works for us. Related Link: Today’s Hosts: Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes – CONNECT WITH US – – LEARN WITH US –

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Dealing with Your Inner Critic

In this episode of Gay Men Going Deeper, we dive into the complexities of the inner critic—the voice in our heads that often feeds perfectionism, shame, and self-doubt. While it can feel like a harsh and relentless judge, the inner critic is actually trying to protect you in its own way. We explore how to better understand this part of ourselves, offering strategies for befriending the inner critic and cultivating a mindset of self-compassion. Some of the topics covered today are: Join us for a thoughtful discussion on turning down the volume on self-criticism and fostering a healthier, more supportive relationship with yourself. Today’s Hosts: Related Link: Support the Show – viewer and listener support helps us to continue making episodes – CONNECT WITH US – – LEARN WITH US –

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Healing Shame

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Shame is that terrible feeling that arises when you get the sense that something is fundamentally wrong about you. It is often accompanied by inadequacy and self-doubt. Shame convinces you that you are not enough.   Like it or not, shame plays a key role in the gay man’s life. Born into a straight world, we must contend with the fact that we are different. While we all have a unique way of dealing with shame, healing it is necessary if we want to develop an authentic sense of self and truly connect in our most intimate relationships.  We’ll be exploring 3 key questions: Take today’s episode to the next level: Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Healing Your Shame course Your Hosts Resources Gay Men Going Deeper Coaching Collection Healing Your Shame course Building Better Relationships course Take the Attachment Style Quiz! Connect With Us Join the Facebook community and monthly Group Zoom call You can also follow us on Instagram and TikTok Support the Show

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Guilt, Shame, and Religion

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Guilt and shame are two of the most challenging emotions we encounter. For those who grew up with a religious or spiritual belief system, guilt and shame can have a uniquely traumatic impact on your sense of self and in your relationships. In this episode, host Michael DiIorio speaks with inter-faith community leader, Jeremy Russo, who has used his experience with spiritual abuse to become a leader in the queer community helping others overcoming their own spiritual and religious trauma. In this episode we cover: Regardless of your spiritual beliefs, this episode will help you better understand and navigate your way through guilt and shame. TODAY’S GUEST: Jeremy Russo of Emerge, an inter-faith and ecumenical space for the “nones and dones,” LGBTQIA+ people, women, people of color, individuals with different abilities, ex-vangelicals, and anyone who feels like their voice and spiritual journey was discouraged or silenced by institutional churches. Connect with Emerge on Facebook or Instagram TODAY’S HOST: Michael DiIorio is a certified life and wellness coach specializing in self-confidence, sexuality, and relationships. Connect with Michael on Instagram or www.wellismo.com. Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Toronto PRIDE EVENT Join the private Facebook community Take our “Building Better Relationships” course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community

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Sex Positivity

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Your sexuality is yours, and how you express it is the fun of life. But for so many of us, sex is wrapped up in shame. In this episode, Michael has a candid conversation with special guest, Mike Iamele, about sex positivity and sexual confidence. Together, they explore: Michael also volunteers to have his sensitivities mapped to illustrate how your sensitivities and desires are linked. By the end of this episode, you’ll feel more empowered to be authentically you- both in and out of the bedroom.   Mike Iamele: mikeiamele.com/map / @mikeiamele Michael DiIorio: www.wellismo.com / @wellismo_coach Sexual Empowerment Watch this ep on YouTube – Connect with us – Join the private Facebook community Take the “Healing Your Shame” course Instagram GayMenGoingDeeper.com Patreon -— Join the Gay Men Going Deeper Membership coaching community!

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